Why the older you are the more difficult to do speed dating
Why the older you are the more difficult to do speed dating
Do you realized that the older you are, the more difficult it becomes to find someone you love. In the past two years, I have attended a lot of speed dating events, and they were all single in the end. People around you will always tell you that the requirements are not too high, and it is almost enough. But is this really the case?
More requirements, more stringent
When the age is older, the purpose of blind dates is to get married. At this time, the requirements for the blind date are more stringent. The appearance, height, work income, family situation, house, car, etc., are dissatisfied at first sight. There is no more. The so-called love at first sight is nothing more than greedy and lustful, handsome and rich. Naturally, first of all, I am old, ugly and very poor, and basically blind dates are cool ones.
The older you get, the more realistic you are. Some girls once said that maybe 20 years old will allow you to have nothing, and you can work hard together, believing that love can be above all else with a good cause. At the age of 30, he has entered middle age, and no longer believes in late bloomers, buying a house, buying a car and raising children, everything is money, if there is nothing, what to take to bear a family. The older you get, the more realistic you are.
The circle is getting smaller and smaller
When you get older, you find that your circle is getting smaller and smaller. Your former friends and classmates have already married and left the single team. What you can contact is only the nodding greetings when you meet each other. It will not be the same as before, to travel together, drink karaoke together. Life has become only going to work and off work.
The people around are already married and have children. There are fewer and fewer singles, and fewer resources are available. Moreover, the older you are, the greater the pressure. You are busy working overtime every day to earn money, and you have no time and energy to go out and play. At this time, you find that you have been abandoned by the world, and there is only one left in your world. You are cold.
I’m just an ordinary person
The greatest maturity of a person is to admit that he is just an ordinary person, doing ordinary work every day, barely getting enough food and clothing with a poor salary. Without the poems and distant places of my youth, there are only the stubbornness in front of me. People are inferior to dogs in middle age. The pressure of life is increasing, and the pressure of work is also increasing.
The older you get, the more you recognize yourself. When you see a girl you like, you will first look at your pockets, and then shook your head helplessly, telling yourself not to delay others. So poor, no one can appreciate it, and even a person pretty good. There is no impulse to chase girls when you are young. The older you are, the less motivation to find someone. You will be rejected because you are poor, and you will be rejected because of unstable work. In short, the rich and which woman All are predestined, no money is not suitable for anyone.
There are fewer outstanding people of the same age
High-quality resources will only become less and less, and the remaining people are almost all “fruits that no one picks on the roadside.” Do you feel dissatisfied with blind dates? You can rest assured that as you go on a blind date, you will encounter fewer and fewer satisfied people-because high-quality people have long been snatched away by various channels.
From university to two or three years after graduation, this is the time period when high-quality single men and women are most likely to be snatched away. During this period of time, they are not so picky about the actual conditions, so a large number of high-quality boys and girls have been picked out; and then left. Ordinary boys and girls, as long as there is nothing wrong with their character and a little bit of brilliance, they will gradually feel anxious as they age, and they will digest each other internally;
The last remaining boys and girls, the most ordinary people, if they are sincerely looking for someone, can also solve the single problem in various ways.
There are all kinds of flaws: but at the end of the day, they are all hard powers, and the things examined are all comprehensive: because everyone has no time to run in and try and make mistakes, everyone can’t wait to find one without any problems and all aspects of conditions. All very good people directly enjoy vested interests.
Finally, I will talk about a very realistic problem
The longer the time delay, the more comprehensive the factors to be investigated, and it is difficult for most people to pass the layers of investigation in the marriage and love market perfectly.
When you were in college, it was very simple to fall in love. Just examine the feelings of both parties, and even a little bit of skillful stalking. Sometimes your appearance is not considered.
Okay, you really have to consider practical factors when you just leave the society, but fortunately for young people, you can use “potential” as a fig leaf if you have any problems. You can also use “the days will pass the better” to fool both parents and parents. each other;
