Speed Dating Tips: 6 topics you should NEVER talk about on a date
I believe that speed dating needs technical skills and I believe that every boy hopes that his date with the girl he likes can be perfect and profound, can leave a good memory for a good dating experience for the girl, and at the same time be a ripening agent for the development of the relationship between the two.
Therefore, more and more attention will be paid to how to chat with girls, so that the dating process is not cold,
Some brothers even memorize good jokes and topics on the Internet, which can be described as well-intentioned. In fact, if you want to avoid the minefield of dating chat, here are a few things to take seriously.
1. Don’t talk about too much about ex
Some boys will talk a lot about their love history when dating a girl they like, but the idea of showing their charm is actually a big no-no.
What do you think you are thinking: look how good I am, so many girls like me. Girls can’t see it, it happens to be seen that you will be listed as a candidate or even pass directly.
I just want to say that IQ is a good thing, but you don’t seem to have it. Girls like boys who are in love, because boys who are in love will make the relationship easier, sweeter, and less quarrelsome, but this does not mean that girls will like boys who are more in love, there are essential differences between the two.
As far as I know, boys usually brag about their love history when they are not confident with the girl they like. actually. What girls like most is that they have never been in love, but they will be in love.
I’ve seen a lot of guys show off their wealth while dating and show off their financial status in a high-profile way. He put one of his famous big-name handbags next to the girl’s coffee cup, for fear that the girl wouldn’t be able to see the same.
This kind of naked display of wealth is not good, as if it means: you see how rich I am, if you don’t choose me quickly, I can bring you a life of fine clothes and jade food.
In the girl’s mind, you will become a person who uses this date as a girlfriend screening. Brother, whether you have money or not, you don’t have to show it in such a straightforward way. The date place you choose, the restaurant you consume, the clothes you wear, etc. will reflect the economic level. Isn’t this more convincing than the deliberate expression.
Moreover, the naked display of wealth will make girls think that you are just a rich upstart without any self-restraint. The real rich people are both inside and outside.
So, rich brothers, you just choose to date in a place with a good environment. Eating in high-end restaurants, exquisite clothing styles, and even thinking more about small gifts for girls, these are much more low-key than when you pat your wallet naked and say that you are rich and low-key.
3. Avoid show negative feeling
In the process of dating, when talking about certain topics, some boys can’t keep the conversation, and some negative energy poisonous chicken soup comes out of their mouths.
When you say these words, you are exposing too much negative energy, always thinking about things in the bad, looking at life negatively, full of complaints, immersed in past failures and unable to extricate yourself.
On the Internet, there are always people who are very hostile and hurt people, and everyone who is full of negative energy will block reports and block them.
What’s more, the person you are dating face-to-face, it’s good that the girl doesn’t gag you.
Living in the world, except for the easy things in childhood, are full of thorns and bumps, and we all have to bear the burden. You should discover the beauty of life along the way, instead of giving up on yourself and full of anger.
Based on the people and things I’ve been in touch with emotionally, I’ve found that most dating fails because one partner talks too much. Some people have a strong desire to speak, and they don’t even consider the other person’s feelings or give them a sense of participation.
Some are to avoid the embarrassment of the date, they keep looking for topics to talk about, and they just turn a date into their own cross talk show. When we chat on a date, there should be interaction, you come and go. It’s good to be involved in the conversation. Give the girl time to talk during the conversation, and don’t keep talking by yourself.
If the girl is a shy person, find a way to get her involved in speaking and don’t let her be a listener.
5. Do Not Check her background too much on the first date
I don’t know if it’s because of more blind dates, but I found that men’s questions are always the same when they’re on a blind date. They are all household registration questions, such as where are you from, are you an only child, where are your parents, can you cook, do you usually do housework, and how much business do you travel? And basically there is no basis for it, not talking about interests, not talking about hobbies, not talking about life. Every time I ask him if he can cook, his face is slightly embarrassed, or he just says I can’t.
To be honest, every time I am asked these questions by people I have never met or met for the first time, I am quite disgusted, and even arouse the desire to win or lose. In my opinion, the premise of the other person asking me if I can cook is, The other party should be able to, not only can but also should be very good.
Blind date appointments are to show one’s own charm, not to criticize the shortcomings of others.
If the other person is someone you have a good eye for, your charm can show you the beautiful you, and perhaps capture the other person’s heart.
If the other person is not someone you have a good eye for, your charm is to train for the next appointment, and at the same time, it reflects your self-cultivation, so that others have a good impression of you. A good impression is better than a bad impression. The mountains don’t turn and the water turns, maybe there will be opportunities to meet in the future, and it is also possible to continue the front line (one meeting cannot fully understand a person).
Not criticizing others reflects self-cultivation. When meeting for the first time, there is no need to point out the shortcomings of others, there is no need to show that you do not like those aspects of the other party, and there is no need to point out those aspects of the other party that cannot meet your requirements. There is no fate, just think about it again, and you will be fine. Perhaps, when the mountains don’t turn and the water turns, they won’t be hostile to each other.
In Conclusion
To sum up, the above 6 points, don’t talk about it when you are on a blind date. If you want to have a successful blind date, the content of the conversation is very important and moral.
