Having a good relationship is not as easy as you talk, it needs a lot of efforts and time, giving the other party a signal is very important when you are interested in him or her.
Recently, after consulting a few friends about love issues, I observed a big problem that many people have: release my intentions. To release the intention means passing the ball to the other party, which means “let the opponent know that you are interested in him and want to move forward a little bit more”.
For example, suppose that you and the person you want to know are colleagues from the same company but different departments, because he fits your eyes very well, and you have seen him speak at different meetings, and you are very affected by him, attracted by his temperament, it makes you want to know him better.
At this time you can choose:
1. With the reason that the order of drink is less than a cup to be delivered, go to their department and ask if anyone wants to be with you
2. Smile + nod your head when you meet him in the elevator to build a sense of familiarity
3. Go over directly during work hours and show that you want to know him
4. Calculate his off work time and wait for him next to his car.
Among the above options, none of them are “absolutely correct” and none of them are “absolutely wrong.” You must have seen someone choose 3 and then succeed in dating. Of course, you must have met someone who chooses 1 and then slowly warm up the relationship. However, this is the crux of the problem. For a person who “will not release his intentions”, his mind cannot make the choice of 1, 2 or 3 because of his limited thinking and lack of experience. He has only 4 options. do you think probability of a relationship for him or her will be high or low?
There is a saying that the distance between us is 1000 steps. If you go one step forward, I will walk the remaining 999 steps for you. I think the original meaning of this sentence is that you should take the initiative, and the other party knows that you are interested, he will respond equally, but the rules of love in the real world do not work like this.
The rules of the real world are often:
➤ You take a half step forward and make sure that the other party is aware of it
➤ If he is interested in you, he will also take a half step forward
➤ Then you will follow this half-step half-step rhythm
➤ When the ambiguous atmosphere is strong enough, you will increase the pace of advancement.
However, many people don’t understand this rule, or in other words, he understands the rule rationally, but because the gains and losses are too heavy, he can’t control himself, so every time he hurriedly advances, he takes 300 steps.
Just think about it, if you just met a new person, he will rush 300 steps and 500 steps as soon as he comes up. Don’t you feel worried? Don’t you think it’s too fast? Because of this, these people who “externally have good conditions” and seem unlikely to be able to make a girlfriend (boyfriend) will often end up being sent a notice saying “I think we are developing too fast.” And after they receive the notice, they will not realize that they have “excessive intentions”, but will want to hold on to the other party even more desperately, and finally miss the beautiful relationship that can be grasped by getting along smoothly.
