Happiness Love is to Be tolerated to others
Happiness Love is to Be tolerated to others
What is Love?
What is love, love is temperance, love is endurance, love is tolerance and acceptance. It’s easy to fall in love with each other. Many people love each other, but because they can’t accommodate and tolerate, they are always very selfish and lose a beautiful marriage. This is a pity. When you truly fall in love with someone, you are of course tolerant and accommodating.
How do you know he loves you?
When a man loves a woman deeply, he feels that everything is good for her, and it’s okay to lose his temper. When there are occasional small mistakes, the man doesn’t care about it. Instead, he will get used to her and will take the initiative to help the woman. Conversely, if a man doesn’t love a woman enough, he can’t tolerate her occasional small mistakes. He always feels that a woman is not good enough, and often dislikes her. After a long time, the two people will probably break up.
Love a person is not to control her
Sometimes a man has a strong desire for control, not because he loves women, but because he loves himself too much. When you really fall in love with someone, a man doesn’t mind a woman’s emotional experience. Whether a woman meets a scumbag or has an unforgettable relationship, men don’t care about everything. They think it’s a thing of the past, but it’s nothing. . When a man truly falls in love with a woman, he will not care about her past, but will only love and cherish a woman even more, and is willing to shelter her from the wind and rain. He feels that having a woman’s present and future is already a very beautiful thing.
Habit cannot be changed in one day
Xiao Miao’s living habits are different from her boyfriend. She likes to be quiet, so she is very disgusted with her boyfriend’s acquaintances. She likes to read and study, not to lively activities, but her boyfriend always thinks that she is a nerd, too rigid. Xiao Miao likes to exercise, and occasionally goes out for a run. Her boyfriend finds it boring, and instead asks her to give up running. Xiao Miao is very tolerant of some things about her boyfriend, but she did not expect her boyfriend to treat his life habits.
Living habits are not formed overnight, and it is difficult to change. If two people have conflicts in their living habits, they should choose to accommodate each other instead of forcing each other to change in the name of love. If a man loves a woman, he must at least respect the living habits of tolerating women. Even if he is wronged and made some concessions, he will not force the woman to make changes. This is the expression of love.
How to overcome the conflicts
There will inevitably be some contradictions and frictions between lovers when they get along. At this time, it is necessary for both parties to have a tolerant heart in order to resolve the contradictions and make the two people live in harmony. A reporter once asked Yazhi Zhao the secret to a happy marriage. Yazhi Zhao simply said: “Tolerance.” The word tolerance is simple to say, but it is difficult to do. If two people in love can tolerate each other, then two people are together. Will be very happy. On the contrary, if two people don’t know how to tolerate and tolerate, then there will always be conflicts and disputes between them, and the two people will be less happy when they are together.
There is a couple. The wife is a very capable and powerful person. She speaks aggressively and does not know how to be modest. The husband is also a person who does not know how to tolerate. He always thinks that this is not good for his wife and that is not good. The wife thinks the husband is too picky, and the husband thinks the wife is too domineering. Unconsciously, the contradiction between the two people is getting bigger and bigger.
Later, the husband’s career suffered a great blow. He felt a lot of pressure, so he confided to his wife. Who knows that his wife accused her, saying that he is such a big man who is so unambitious and should bravely get up if he falls. , Complaining everywhere, not as strong as a woman. Hearing what his wife said, the husband’s heart was cold. He wanted to get some comfort and support from his wife, but he didn’t expect it to look down on her.
Since then, the husband never talked to his wife about anything he encountered. The conversation between the two people became less and less. Under the same roof, sometimes they couldn’t say a few words a day. If there is less concern and understanding between each other, conflicts will often arise. Two people often quarrel about trivial matters, and neither will let anyone else, and they will fight for reasons. Sometimes the quarrel was fierce, and the last two people were very angry, but they forgot why they quarreled.
Gradually, the couple’s feelings faded, and finally they couldn’t make it through and they divorced. If there is a relationship problem, you should find a way to find out the reason and actively correct it. In the story, the husband and wife, one is too strong, the other does not know how to tolerate, the two feel that they are reasonable, and no one will let each other complain, scold each other, and accuse each other during the quarrel. As everyone knows, it was in these seemingly ordinary quarrels that the two people’s feelings were wiped out, and they finally came to the point of breaking up. If any one of them is more tolerant to each other, the family will be much more harmonious and warm.
Couples must be tolerate to each others
Therefore, people who love each other must know how to be tolerant when they get along. There is no big deal, and there is no loss in one step. Why do you have to be so upset for a little thing?
There is an elderly couple, they are both psychologists. The husband also had some love affairs before meeting his wife, but at that time they were both young and did not know much about the concept of marriage. When the husband recalled the first time he saw his wife, he said: “I liked her at first sight. The tolerant temperament on her attracted me. Although I didn’t know what I wanted at the time. What kind of woman to marry, but I think that tolerant mature women should be suitable for me, because I am a relatively strong person and should be very suitable for being with a tolerant person like her.”
Later, they fell in love, got married, and had children, and went hand in hand for most of their lives. In the past decades of getting along, almost the wife has always played the role of tolerating her husband, and two people will quarrel, but every time they quarrel, the wife will make certain concessions. Later, the husband also realized that his personality was too strong and needed to be changed.
How to quarrel in a good way
Therefore, when quarreling in the future, both of them will subconsciously restrain themselves, calm themselves down, and then clarify the dispute. When two people learn to be tolerant, their relationship becomes more harmonious. The happy marriage of two people has always been envied and praised by friends around.
Whenever friends praised them, they would tell their friends that in fact, two people who love each other must be tolerant if they want to be happy. People often say “Be strict with yourself and be lenient to others”. This sentence is not only applicable to interpersonal communication, but also to getting along with your loved one. More tolerant love is the only way to be happy.
In Conclusion
The ancients said: “Inclusive of all rivers, tolerance is great.” It can be seen how strong the power of tolerance is, and quarrels will inevitably occur between lovers. When quarreling, think about the other side’s perspective, look at it with tolerance, and make appropriate concessions. It is not a sign of weakness, but a necessary means to maintain feelings.
Tolerance is trust, tolerance is respect, tolerance is kindness, tolerance is love. Tolerance can make our feelings warmer, tolerance can make the love between us more broad, tolerance can make us more happy, tolerance is the golden key to open the door to happiness.
