Dating Tips: How to avoid embarrassment in a blind date?
If you are not married at the age of marriage, I really encourage everyone to try blind dates, not for anything else, just because you can meet more people of the opposite sex, and at the same time enrich yourself and understand your needs.
Blind date, just a way to help for those who want to develop a serious relationship but don’t have the time or lack of social skills. If you choose it, then every opportunity you give others is an opportunity for yourself.
But when two strangers sitting and chatting together, and embarrassment may appear more or less. What do you do when you are embarrassed and don’t know what to say? How to avoid embarrassment in a blind date?
1. Don’t always try to please the other person
Many people think that the most direct way to win the other person’s favor quickly is to have an interesting or meaningful conversation with the other person. In fact, a relationship doesn’t necessarily have to be built on a conversation, because many people don’t actually remember a particular conversation, let alone you might just meet for the first time.
Therefore, you don’t need to search your guts to say famous quotes, just say what you want to say naturally; you don’t need to worry about pleasing each other, just make sure that the atmosphere of the interaction between the two parties is pleasant.
2. Blind date ≠ marriage
Speed date is not asking you to get married after it. Blind date is to give you a way to meet new friends. Only when you can chat can you become boyfriend and girlfriend. In the end, it is possible to become a husband and wife. So don’t be nervous, take it easy.
3. Dating according to your preference
Speed date is also to be friends for a period of time, and finally whether you are together or not depends entirely on whether you like it or not. If you like it, if you are interested, you can eat and play together. If you are not interested, you can refuse. The initiative is entirely up to you. If you are happy with each other, there will be a next time; if you are not happy, you will not meet again, there is no embarrassment.
4. Ask the right questions and let the other person talk about themselves
Everyone loves to talk about themselves, not necessarily because we’re narcissistic, but because it’s an ironclad safe topic. So if you really don’t know what to say to your new friend, start with a good question so they can start talking about themselves.
Asking questions also shows your interest and how much you care about the other person, so you can choose what questions to ask by observing. For example, if the other person looks tired, why not talk to them about what he experienced yesterday; or observe the other person’s clothes and ask them where they got their clothes.
When asking questions, remember to ask open-ended questions, and don’t let the other person answer “yes” or “no” to end. When the other person talks more, the topic can continue, and you can get to know him better.
5. Introduce yourself and Look at the friend circle of the blind date
If you are afraid of embarrassment, you can briefly introduce yourself first, so that you don’t have to sit there stupidly, not knowing what to say. A self-introduction can help both parties have a certain understanding of each other.
My introduction to a good friend is mainly from these aspects: greetings + name introduction + basic information + distinctive point shaping + personal appeal + thanks.
First of all, at the beginning of your meeting, it is best to have a preliminary understanding of each other’s interests, which can be viewed through the circle of friends. Just imagine that you don’t know anything about each other. Unless one of you is familiar with each other, it’s hard to imagine this meeting without embarrassment.
6. Find common interests
Remember to listen carefully to other people’s self-introductions, so that you can get some information on each other’s interests and hobbies, and you have a topic to talk about. Chat in several general directions: movies, travel, food, music, recent hot topics, and entertainment. This can adjust the topic direction according to the results of the initial understanding.
The topics are all extended, for example: from the beginning of travel, talking about the food of a certain place, when it comes to food, there is a restaurant with a good style, and their store will always play some good music.
7. Repeat what the other person said
Sometimes the chat can’t continue because you are not familiar with what the other person is saying, and you really don’t know what to say or what to give.
When this happens, try to sort out what the other person just said and repeat it again. This will not only make the other person feel that you are listening carefully, but also give them a chance to correct you or add more content.
Also, repeating or confirming what the other person has said when they are describing their complex work, or a major you are not familiar with, can also make the other person feel that you are interested in what he has to say.
When there is no talk, it will be cold, and when it is cold, it will be embarrassing. This is really normal in blind dates. We can change the topic immediately. You can also say generously, “I’m sorry, I’m a little nervous. It’s very similar to when I forgot my words when I gave a speech for the first time.
Don’t be afraid of embarrassment on blind dates, just relax and meet people and chat with others. Don’t feel uncomfortable even if there is an embarrassing situation, this is a normal phenomenon.
In Conclusion:
Speed dating is a good way to know more friends and expand your friend’s circle, when you do speed dating events, please share some of your little things. Some people may find it weird to talk about themselves, but talking about the little things that don’t really matter not only shows you want people to know you, it’s also a great opportunity to build on the topic of the conversation.
As mentioned earlier, people don’t remember the content of every conversation in detail, and instead feel more embarrassed by the silence. So instead of letting both sides go silent, talk about small things like what you ate yesterday or what you did on holiday, and the other person will also appreciate that you bring up the topic and keep the conversation going.
