At present, a study conducted by psychology scholars at the University of Hong Kong shows that the amount of money can indeed have a significant impact on the closeness of the relationship between the two sexes. In short, wealth may make men “love transfer”.
Specifically, compared with men with “no money”, “rich” men are more likely to be dissatisfied with their partner’s appearance, etc. in a long-term marriage; in addition, “rich” makes men more active in approaching their love of the opposite sex.
Why do men become bad when they have money?
1. Every man has a seed of restlessness in his heart
“Men get bad when they have money” is just an appearance. Most of the “bad” men are not good birds when they have no money, but they do not have bad conditions and opportunities when they are poor.
If you believe no man is completely honest, it is probably a bit absolute and unfair. But in fact, from a biological point of view, male hormones determine that almost every man loves to admire beautiful women.
This feeling is just like women are always inadvertently attracted by those cute puppies on the street, so it can be said that men Both love the new and hate the old, and there is a seed of “badness” in their hearts.
Maslow once proposed a classic hierarchy of needs, arguing that theoretically, human needs are divided into five levels from low to high like a ladder, namely: physiological needs, safety needs, social needs, esteem needs and self-esteem fulfill needs, and it doesn’t really matter if a Man is Responsible or not.
According to this view, when a person’s basic material needs are met, higher-level psychological needs become the main motivation for behavior.
Money can make a person no longer worry about survival, and the seed of “badness” in the heart begins to germinate slowly, so he begins to pursue romantic love, sexual pleasure, or gain the respect and admiration of others.
So money provides the soil for the seeds of men to “go bad”.
3. Diversity and inclusion in society has deteriorated for men
With the rapid development and continuous opening of society, values have also developed from unity to diversity.
The so-called unity often represents the unity of thoughts and values, just as in the past people often believed that “men become bad” is incorrect and unforgivable; while diversity represents the freedom of personality, inclusiveness, and the true liberation of nature.
People think that Men “going bad” aren’t as inexcusable as they used to be, and the condemnation of “going bad” isn’t as serious as it once was.
Therefore, when men have money, coupled with the decline of the external social moral standards, it is easy to embark on the road of “badness”.
4. Affected by the surrounding environment
In today’s society, the bad atmosphere is gradually spreading – “the red flag at home does not fall down, and the colorful flags flutter outside” seems to have become a “symbol” of the status of a rich man. That is also why women feel to find a suitable man is becoming difficult.
In addition, some women don’t want to change their fate through their hard work, but want to take shortcuts, so it becomes an option to take the initiative to embrace rich men, and men can’t resist such temptation. These will provide the conditions for the germination of the “bad” seed in a man’s heart.
How should women do when choosing a man to get married?
1. Open your eyes before marriage and choose a good man
The temptation of the outside world exists objectively for everyone, and no one is immune to it. Faced with this kind of temptation, scumbags often “follow their hearts” and gradually embark on the road of no return to making mistakes.
And a good man can firmly control the “germinating seed” in his heart with morality and sense of responsibility, so that it will not break out of the ground; he will consciously control the surrounding bad environment, such as refusing to secretly congratulate him, and not envious of being rich A man has a home away from home.
As mentioned earlier, androgen determines that almost every man loves to appreciate beautiful women. However, most women are young and beautiful before marriage. After marriage, they are mostly trapped in trivial matters of family and children, and they become less concerned about their own image than when they were young. This is undoubtedly the initiative to give up their attraction to their partners.
Therefore, even after marriage, women must develop their own careers, hobbies and hobbies, manage themselves, and not be yellow-faced women in the family.
3. Accompany a man to work hard and become his irreplaceable person
Women should understand and trust their lovers, and at the same time accompany men to work hard and give men inner strength. In this way, they are shaped by each other, and their lives are thus closely connected. When they have gone through thousands of twists and turns together, it is often difficult for others to become replaceable people.
4. Children help stabilize relationships
Children are the crystallization of love and the bond between the two big families of husband and wife. A family with children is more complete, and a more complete family is less likely to break up.
If a man can enjoy the warmth from his wife and children, it is not easy to go outside to seek satisfaction; and both parties will not easily embark on the track of extramarital affairs because of their shared responsibility for their children.
Many men become bad when they have money, so having wealth does not necessarily lead to a happy marriage, and poor and lowly couples also have the joy of being poor and lowly. A pair of men and women from acquaintance, acquaintance, falling in love, and finally entering into marriage hand in hand, just like becoming partners and starting a career together.
In order to make a long-lasting marriage, the most important thing is to pay attention to the communication between the hearts of the two, learn humility and respect, and invest sincerity, trust, understanding and tolerance as capital, and work together to run this business with heart.
