Should dating go Dutch or should men pay the bill?

When you are having a dinner party with a men or woman. Do you think men should pay for the first date, or the AA system (pay for each)?

In his new book “Illustrated Love Psychology”, the psychologist Masazo Shibuya further analyzed the differences in mentality between men and women when they face the “paying” situation in dating, and analyzed the possible reasons behind them through psychology.

Psychological analysis said that most women actually are not unable or can’t afford to pay, but want to observe the sincerity of the men when first date.

In Different Countries

When we have event dating parties, since countries have tried to promote equal rights between men and women, the apparent salary difference between men and women has been banned. Some women’s income is even higher than that of men of the same age. Even so, why in modern times, there are still many women who think that “men should be paying when dating?”

The first is the situation where women on purposely adopt a high posture in order to see whether men have any intentions or if they are sincere when dating a girl. Another reason may be that it is purely a “habit” and has no other meaning; although on the surface, the behavior of “different pay for equal work” of men and women has been prohibited by law, but the long-term habit of treating guests by men did not disappear overnight.

Of course, there is also a category of women who regard the other party’s willingness to pay as a measure of love!

A man who is willing to pay the bill loves you more?

Is that really the case? I am not sure about it.

This type of woman is full of dreams about love; for example, “I hope he can take me to great places”, “I hope he can say something romantic to me”, “I hope he can cherish me like a princess” , And other fantasies like the plot of an idol, one of which also includes: “Hope to be protected by a capable man”, and “Willing to pay” is a sign of this wish.

Even if they live in modern times and have their own abilities, most women of this type will think that the AA system means that the other party does not love themselves enough, and only treats, which means that the other party attaches great importance to and likes themselves.

To put it simply, male treats have become a benchmark for such women to measure love.

But apart from this type of woman, who should pay for the date or the AA system? Below we will further analyze the possible mentalities of men and women from psychology!

What are the women thinking about being treated?

• I think he looks so manly when he pays!
• If the other party is willing to pay, I feel that he cherishes himself more.
• If you propose the AA system, you are afraid that the other party thinks that he is not earning enough, which may hurt male self-esteem.
• Purely personal habit.

What are the men who are willing to pay the bill thinking?

• I want to show my economic strength.
• Satisfy the other person to appreciate their vanity.
• Purely personal habit.

What are men thinking about the AA system?

• Repel the thinking that “men should pay the bill”.
• The economic burden is large.
• Fearing that the other party will develop a habit, you will have to pay for it in the future, causing a psychological burden.

A healthy relationship is not to take advantage of each other!

Remember you are looking for someone to get married, and live together for a long time, you can’t judge a person when you only see him or her once! No matter which of the above types you are, you should still respect each other when dating. No one should do anything for anyone, and you should not have the mentality of wanting to “take advantage of each other”.